In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.

We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.

In this episode, we discuss:

Important examples of defensive and assertive responses
How modelled communication styles from our personal history effect our present communication styles
The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives
The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses
How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness
The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses
How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding

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