Are You Kind to Yourself?

How do you draw the line between spoiling to yourself and being kind to yourself? I think that's a really good point, and i think that everyone has to draw their own one. What i find is looking at your life more halistically, so looking at it like a whole pie, and deciding what you value most in it. The behaviours that are difficult that you want to engage in be ones that ideally move you in the direction of realizing those values. It may not be kind to you to miss the jim one day, but it might be kind to me, because that evening i went and did something that filled me up more,. And that happens to matter more to me.