The Judgments of Others That Make Us Anxious Are Alienated Expressions of Needs

Judges of others that make us angry are not only alienated expressions of our needs but at times they look to me like suicidal tragic expressions of our need. When we go instead of to our heart and get connected to what we are needing and not getting if instead we direct our attention to judging what is wrong with other people for not meeting our needs, these judgments usually create more defensiveness than learning or certainly they don't create much cooperation. In the case of the prisoner from Sweden after we had identified the judgments that he was making that were creating his anger I ask him to look behind the judgments and tell me what needs of his were not getting met through the judgments he was making of the