The Buddha's Awakening

i think again of that line from the buddha, that when you see how important it is to love yourself, you'll stop causing others to suffer. That this isn't somethi we do for our own individual self. We do it for the freedom of our hearts and for others as well. When what is surrender? When we offer our surrender the ness, what does that mean my understanding? Cause i do this also. I'll just say, it's too much. Take it. It's not like i want to get rid of this. You take it. But a self can't surrender. Surrendering happens. All we can do is intend to let go.