Speaker 1
i'm just like playing with color and texture because it calms me. And i think if you can't think of what to do right now, i would suggest doing what you used to do when you were ten years old that made you feel happy and relaxed. And that's often creativity and play. And for many of us who were anxious children, and i was an anxious child, we learned at an early age that we could sedate ourselves with our curiosity and with our play. And then usually round adolescence, the world taught us that there were faster and more immediate ways to bump out of that anxiety, through sex or substances, or or distraction, or workoholism, or whatever we did to not have to sit with ourselves. And i think right now as a really good opportunity toyou you actualy were on the right track when you were ten a whatever it was. You know, get some legosh, get some legoes, get some coloring books, ju um, get your hands in the mud. Do, do whatever it is that will actually ground you into this again, to take you out of the futurizing and the future tripping that's going to cause you nothing but anxiety and not going to make you be of service. Am, you know, there's such a thing too that i just want to touch on, if i can for a minute, about epathetic overload, an empathetic melt down. Am, we're taught that empathy is a good thing. I would suggest that in a case this dramatic, what you want to talk about replacing empathy with is compassion. And the difference is extremely important. So compassion means, i'm actually not suffering right now. You are. I see you're suffering, and i want to help you. That's what compassion is. Empathy is your suffering, and now i'm suffering because you are suffering. So now we have two people suffering, and nobody who can serve, and nobody who can be of help. And if you knew how your empathetic suffering actually makes you into another patient who needs assistance, you would be more willing to dip into compassion. And what, what underlies compassion is the virtue of courage, the courage to be able to sit with and witness omebody else's pain without inhabiting it. Yourself so much that you become another person who is suffering, and now there are no helpers. And it takes an enormous amount of courage to be able to watch that an without diving into it and joining it and becoming sick yourself.