The Four Brahma Viharas

The Buddha directly addresses this. It's very much in the heart of the Dharma, a practice called the Brahma Viharas - which are the four divine, divine abodes or emotional states we want to attain. And if I allow my body to get tight, if I start picking up your body state in my body, then soon I'm going to be feeling overwhelmed and pulled out of being able to be helpful. So that requires an ongoing commitment to just noticing my body, relaxing my body, setting an intention to listen," she says.