Is There a Want to Be Wanted?

There is a wanting to be wanted by qualified wantters. So that's definitely part of the structure. Nothing we add there is relevant to the paradox. If what you want is to be wanted, then you're not going to match with anyone else who also wants to be wanted. And so I'm willing to positive in fact people aren't being very honest there and they do it except that somebody else wants them primarily because of their ability to be wanting"