Are You Rejecting or Abandoning Your Relationship?

If you find yourself overly charged and overly activated in feelings that you can't have any rational thinking that involves you, the thinking that's usually activated is what somebody's done to you. That's a sign that you're overstimulated with feelings and flooded. And part of it is recognizing and this is what's hard in a preoccupied attachment. Not only are you fearing rejection and abandonment and seeing evidence of it,. You'll see evidence of it and all things and many things that don't actually have to do with you. But you have this sort of this over self referential aspect that people are, these signs are of rejection or abandonment.