Hey folks, Ned here. If you’ve ever felt like life’s got you underwater—like you’re just barely catching your breath before the next wave crashes in—this one’s for you. In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend, partner, and co-author Dr. William Stixrud to talk about something that’s more relevant now than ever: how we actually relieve stress—not just dodge it.
We unpack the critical difference between stress relief (those momentary escapes) and stress release (the tools that really let the pressure out), and why both are necessary. We also dive into practices that help us become non-anxious presences for our kids, and how that calm can be just as contagious as stress. Whether it’s exercise, meditation, social connection, or just laughing with friends, we explore the science-backed ways to bring your nervous system back online and show up for your family with clarity and calm.
Episode Highlights:
[0:00] - Introduction and announcement of the new workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child
[1:39] - That overwhelmed feeling—why so many of us are barely staying afloat
[3:12] - Stress relief vs. stress release: what’s the difference and why it matters
[5:39] - Coping methods kids use—and why many of them are just avoidance strategies
[7:32] - The trouble with short-term fixes like weed and excessive screen time
[8:31] - Real stress release through exercise, baking, and yes—carrot cake
[10:15] - How parents’ stress regulation directly impacts their children
[11:38] - Two paths to calm: cognitive reframing and physiological practices
[14:42] - Radical acceptance—how shifting our mindset reduces suffering
[16:31] - The vital role of calm people and community in weathering storms
[20:08] - Emergency stress relief: laughter, singing, deep breathing, and movement
[22:50] - The power of consistent practices like meditation and gratitude
[25:57] - Final thoughts: combining cognitive, physiological, and social strategies for real resilience
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