You reduce your emotions, er, your emotional reactivity. So instead of going on the attack and them sort of becoming defensive,. You're kind of, like looking at things more calmly, right? Your coming across is more reasonable. And then what is that change? So how does that alter the course of your relationship? Right? So then suddenly, no break up. I'm over simplifying here for a minute, but it's like, o, like people actually acknowledge that i have needs and stuff like that, and they're able to accommodate those.