How to Establish Safety in Your Relationship

What we most need as human beings is simply to have our internal states be known. That's the core of attachment with another human being. It's vital to never interrupt, and as much as possible to repeat back what we've heard before. When someone else feels heard, it deflates the intensity of the conflict. And finally, the most reparative device that establishes safety is being willing to apologize for any errors that we've made.