How Do We Find the Goldy Lock Stone?

How do i find that, as they said in the buddhis tradition, the right effort? Where is that place? And again, it's not so easy to find, because it's constantly changing. So relaxing an intensifying effort. One of my friends, a walker walker trailer, my college buddies, he went off to malasia to do like, a three months retreat in he mahase retreat, and did the whole thing. He came back an utter mess.