How Do You Help Your Kids Become Sham Resilient?

A lot of these shields that we just went through with the perfectionism and the numbing and such. We're taught those at a very young age and some of them are in are part of us. So how do you help your kids become as she would call it shame resilient? And My takeaway from that mic is live it There's there's a lot of parenting advice out there people can come up on both sides of the fence.