You would think that the things we hate about ourselves would bete easiest to let go of and to change. But it doesn't work that way. And this is where the essential role of kindness and compassion and loving awareness comes in. It really reminds me of, you know, i learned in my training in ner linguistic programming, and you now, it's used in counselling all the time,. As you're saying, true dythes that when you go back to seeing the earlier childhood memory of where that pattern might have come from.