"The chemistry that I had in that relationship was out of control. The love that we had for each other was the most life changing, redemptive experience for both of us," she said. "But underneath the chemistry, there was not compatibility in some areas that we needed it." She went on to say: 'Things that can have happened in our childhood with our parents with intergenerational experiences can define the rest of our romantic lives'
Understanding the difference between chemistry and compatibility can help us understand that just because it feels good, doesn’t mean it will be good. We confuse chemistry with compatibility, intensity with intimacy and attention with intention, without every talking about the foundations of what compatibility actually means.
Louise & therapist Dr. Tari Mack cover some game changing advice:
- The concepts of chemistry vs. compatibility
- Why love isn’t enough
- 6 signs of toxic chemistry (trauma bonding, breadcrumbing, toxic chemistry, rollercoaster dating, inconsistency, the anxious-avoidant cycle)
- Why you can’t sustain a relationship on just chemistry
- What compatibility is
- The 12 signs of chemistry that you need to establish to really see if you are a good match.
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