The Importance of Uprooting Your Native Attachment Strategy

I don't think that if you don't intentionally do the deep work of uprooting your native attachment strategy that it changes that much. What you're really doing is learning a way of being in relationship to somebody else that works for both people under the conditions that they normally understand that. The preoccupied person because they're so conditioned to be inauthentic, to move into the direction of authenticity is harder. So they actually have a harder time with negotiating that kind of secure functioning. I actually get the person who I like being with easier and it doesn't cost me that much.