This episode of HR Heretics dives into the treacherous waters of giving feedback to friends without capsizing relationships.

Candid feedback or comfortable silence? Kelli and Nolan dissect the art of critiquing colleagues, challenging listeners to reconsider their approach to workplace honesty. Discover why your ego might be your own worst enemy, and learn how to transform awkward conversations into opportunities for growth.

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BOOK MENTIONED:

"Ego is the Enemy" by Ryan Holiday:

https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Ryan-Holiday/dp/1591847818

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Kelli: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellidragovich/

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TIMESTAMPS:

(00:13) Intro

(01:14) A Real-World Example: Kelli's Feedback to Nolan

(02:27) Nolan's Response: The Importance of Inquiry

(04:56) Building Relationships Through Honest Communication

(06:36) Ego as a Barrier to Effective Feedback

(07:34) Challenging Perceptions: The Curious Leader

(08:46) Sponsor: Planful | Metaview

(10:50) Learning from Blunt Feedback: Nolan's Robot Story

(13:36) Using Humor to Ease Feedback Conversations

(14:31) Overcoming Perfectionism and Job Security Fears

(15:44) Reframing Feedback: Alternative Conversation Starters

(16:42) The Golden Rule of Feedback: Reciprocity in Communication

(17:58) Wrap

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