The Importance of Accepting the Impulse to Grip

The expectation thing the expecting mind is just such a maddening thing and you know I still have that those expectations but the only difference now is like it's just there. can you ask that lady to ask that question again can I ask that question a different way well what might it look like to be accepting of the impulse to grasp or you're just aware of that impulse to grasp and not grasp? The problem with effort is that we think of it as am I is my effort successful or is it not so it's just it's opening the hand of thought opening the that noticing and attachment and just letting it go and being okay with struggling for free.