We can't talk about self-destructive behaviors without talking about our childhood. Unresolved emotional trauma, it injures our core beliefs and identity. We have never experienced what it feels like to feel secure and loved because we have only ever survived in chaos and uncertainty. And so for your brain to feel comfortable in an understanding, it continues to self-sabotage you.
Sometimes our biggest enemy isn't others, it's ourselves. Self sabotage is a complicated psychological experience whereby we unconsciously undermine our own goals and wellbeing because of an implicit belief that we don't deserve our success, are afraid of failure, or cannot allow ourselves to be happy. From dating people we shouldn't, to procrastination, indecision, doom scrolling and self destructive behaviours, it all comes down to our unconscious beliefs about our self worth. Today we explore the origins and causes of self sabotage, from Freud's ideas of the 'death drive' and 'anti-self', coping mechanisms, to the impact of unresolved emotional trauma and self punishment to understand why it is we self sabotage, and how we can get out of our own way. Listen now.
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