The Importance of Being Gentle With Ourself

The way kids become resilient is by practicing dealing with big, hard emotions with enough support. If they have big emotions and it's overwhelming to them and they don't have support, that is actually anti-resonance building. So the key is we show up in that moment,. We help them feel safe, seen, soothed. And then when they have enough, not perfect, but repeated experiences of feeling safe, seen and soot, they get that fourth S of secure. This is like we could study this in monkeys, right? Who are not doing, you know, I mean, obviously some other stuff looks like attachment parenting do, but whole other subject.