Are You Using a Losing Strategy?

People tend to use two losing strategies when they're not sure if their need is valid or not. They want to, like, make a case for why it is - even if they don't know what the need is. Unbridled self expression can show up as complaining loudly about an unmet need. This usually comes from the place of, i'm doing this. Why can't you? A other people do this. Other people have this kind of relationship. This isn't that hard. And so it's just you complain, and if it's still not getting met, you complain louder.