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Who really has the advantage in today’s dating world: men or women?

In this provocative episode of Desirable, clinical psychologist Dr. Orion Taraban joins Sonya Love & Agon Love to break down the raw dynamics of modern dating, from age gaps and attraction to the shifting power of sex and commitment. 

With several years of experience working with thousands of clients, Orion brings psychological insight into the realities few people want to admit.

They dive into:
✅ Why women peak earlier in desirability, while men “come into their value” later in life
✅ The role of youth, beauty, maturity, and stability in attraction
✅ Why “commitment before sex” is less effective in today’s competitive landscape
✅ How dating apps amplify mismatched expectations and age gaps
✅ Why many men secretly carry torches for past lovers for decades
✅ Orion’s personal journey as a “romantic in recovery” and lessons from his mistakes
✅ The philosophical question: are we losing true love by reducing dating to swipes and numbers?

This episode challenges modern dating norms and asks the hard questions: what do we really want, and what does it cost to get it?  


00:00 Introduction: Women's Peak Age According to Men
00:31 Dating Dynamics and Gender Differences
01:23 Challenges in Modern Dating
03:26 The Role of Sex in Relationships
05:42 Marriage and Commitment
07:29 Understanding Love and Relationships
13:00 Men's Dating Strategies and Challenges
17:01 Improving Dating Profiles
20:02 The Impact of Sex on Relationship Dynamics
34:00 Why Women Get Ghosted After Sex
36:46 The Cost of Casual Encounters
38:05 Spotting Red Flags in Dating
39:27 The Shift in Effort Post-Sex
40:49 The Role of Commitment and Effort
42:41 Navigating Modern Dating and Relationships
45:00 Conventional vs. Unconventional Dating
46:31 The Importance of Self-Honesty in Dating
48:46 The Reality of Long-Term Relationships
49:37 The Future of Relationships
51:13 Advice for New Daters
58:54 Personal Reflections on Dating
01:14:32 The Mystery Item: A Sentimental Chair
01:18:57 Closing Thoughts and Future Plans

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