Speaker 3
we talked about some positive patter of one on ones and some things that we try to do every time. What are some anti patterns of one on one's wort? Or what are some of the ways s these conversations can go south, besides the the status of date?
Speaker 2
Oh, i got this one. Can you guess yet? Can you already guess which one? Mind mine is, i
Speaker 1
think i know what you are. I have one as well that i think is on your list, just lower thanosgo.
Speaker 2
monopolizing the time, baby. How? What percentage of this time? O do i occupy with my words? You know what? That that's totally
Speaker 1
not what i expected. What did you think i was going to say? So i thought you were going to say, ah, that they just turn into bitch sessions.
Speaker 3
Now, that was the one i was going to say, which is just like, you're reading my mind, not brok. Ok.
Speaker 1
I knew i was shailing from somebody. I'm
Speaker 2
not in that head space right now. That might have been what i would have said four weeks ago, owist the tail end of my job. But a, no, noi it really is, like so easy to accidentally monopolize the time. Because part of what i'm doing is sharing contacts, and part of what i'm doing is coaching an um. It
Speaker 1
can be very easy to allow space. That allowing space is the most important part. Because, again, a thing you've said hundreds of times on this podcast, there's a massive power and balance that we often forget as we go into this, especially as you start managing more and more senior people. Because a good chunk of the senior people and your team you're probably going to look up to technically, ecause they are going to be far superior than you could ever possibly be. U. And so in your mind, like you're on the other side of that dynamic. But that's never the case. You're always one with the quotonquote, bigger title sitting at that table. So it's really easy to just take over and run by accident, because people are deferring to you because, well, brandon's my boss, and if he has something to say, it must be important, so i'm, i'll, i'll hold my peace for a little bit and let him go that comes back to something nick mentioned earlier, about allowing for for silence. If you don't, for somebody like myself, at leastif you don't, if i don't consciously try to create that space, it's really easy for it to get, to, get, ah, filled in. And to your point, t the, here's the context i'm going to be able to provide. So i might take you around the corner and show you what's coming. And then we're going to go on this little detour. I must show you this side street. There's a really cool store down this alley, and if you turn right on thursdays, it's awesome. You should go there. And before you know it, we're off to the races, and they're like, ok, well, i guess it's time. I got to goiafraid. Rod.