Forgiveness and Apologies as Gifts

A transgression demeans the other party. It it undermines them. It removes control. An apology is an attempt to recover either one of those pillars. So apologies can help to rebuild the relationship, re establish the agreement,. Or they can transmit power and control to the other party. They communicate that degrading you is the wrong thing to do. The apology is often the starting point to the conversation. Now that you've actually admitted that somethingis wrong, now we can talk about the right way to move forward.