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thing that comes to mind from some of the experiences. So i coach mostly on cpners or other very busy professionals with that loss.

And you'll see a,

this something i've had to work very hard with my clients about. And, um, you'll see, they'll come in, like you said, high motivation, fo lighter fluid, lose ten pounds, maybe 15. They feel good, and then that goes away. And so what what i hear you saying is, if you're innats, if a person's in that situation, you really got to get dowled into the things that you just mentioned. And the thing that stood out to me the most is, like, why are you doing this? What is the purpose that this serves? And reconnecting with that, did

i understand correctly exactly? Purpose is like a performance in hanser right, if you have. And there's some omen to take you to the athletic world, because there's some fascinating research and science in this area where it essentially shows that, you know, if you have a purpose that is greater than yourselves, you know, and im greater than yourself, i just mean that it's like, oh, i'm just doing this to make some money, or whatever have you. Um, what happens at you're actually able to push further. So thav, they've tested these ideas in the exercise science world where, like, they'll essentially shock the muscle to see if it still has like, juice in it, essentially energy in it. And you can see like how far people can push to kind of complete, or close to complete exhaustion. And people will push further if, for example, they're running this race because they're raising funds for cancer research, or something that like has, you know, some meaning behind it, or they're part of a team, where it's like other people are depending on them, and it's, it's more than them just out there alone. And i think the same thing applies when we take it out of exercise to other aspects of our life, is that purpose can provide that guiding nor star to remind you of, well, why you're going through the difficult moments. And this is actually one of the best things you can do, is when you're in that moment where your thingain, oh, i've got to quit, or what have you, it's create space for that perspective to remind you why you chose to do this. Because if you chose to do this, then it's your brain almost gets that special kick where it's like, oh, yes, i'm not like, i'm not trapped. I'm not like a prisoner being tortured here. I chose to do this. Well, why did i choose to do this? Because, you know, for whatever reason, this is the journey i wanted to take and explore. And that will, again, give a little bit more of that motivation and boost so that you can handle the the really difficult thing. And one other thing that i'd say here that is kind of connected to this as well, as i mentioned, like that being part of a team is, again, there's some fascinating psychology that shows when we're with other people, or supported by other people, the difficult seems more manageable. And there was this fascinating study where they took people and they essentially put em in an f m or i brain scanning machine to look at their brain. And there were spouses, and it was, when it was the one, let's say the wife, alone in the machine, what they would do is they'd introduce something stressful, like they'd put a snake in a small cage, like, right next to the head of the person to make them like, scared and freak out. And you could see it in their brain. Their brain fear centre would go through the roof. When they took the spouse of the person and put em, like, next to the person in the machine, so that wife and husband were stand or the husband was standing next to her and holding their hand. Often the fear response center doesn't go as high. It's just like a little blip. Why? Because when we feel supported and connected, we interpret that stress differently. We say, ok, by myself, this might be overwhelming, but it's ok. I have others around me who can support me. And the same thing occurs, you know, similarly. Just briefly, they, you know, when they took people, same thing, wife, spouse, te made all the stuff, and gave them, like, a really heavy box to lift when you're alone. You guess that that box weighs i don't know, 200 pounds. When your husband is standing next to you, or your partner is standing next o you, you guess the box is a hundred and 50 pounds, and you literally judge it as easier to lift. And your husband or wife or spouse isn't helping you, they're just standing there. And i think that sends such an important message, which is, if we want to tackle difficult things like have that community, have that connection, have that support, because that will literally change how you see the stress that you're experiencing. So powerful. And a wy

brings up so many things.