Are You Taking People on a Skills Building Journey?

People will have different levels of skills and different types of skills. Some people may come into a marriage with an extraordinary set of skills around conflict resolution, about managing emotions. And some won't have built many of those at all and be relying on another person to do a lot of that for them. There's many people who are missing many skills for reasons that are not their fault. If you come from a dysfunctional family of origin, you hardly ask for that. Now you've had a unhelpful or abusive partner, it's very hard to build skills in those zones. So our job as psychologists is to identify where they would be if they were being healthy and then put those skills in