How to Use Anger and Hatred as Tools for Growth

When we are experiencing discomfort, a feeling like anger or hatred is not comfortable. We can use what we're experiencing to transform these emotions into a tool for growth. But it does involve an approach that seems counter intuitive. You know, with a child, it doesn't seem counter intuitive that if they're crying, you need to comfort them. And in my experience, when he was inconsolable like that, i would just hold him,. and i would hold him tight, and i would talk to and eventually it would pass.