#64: The Role of Criticism in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics
On Attachment
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How to Communicate With Anxiety
Anxious people often use criticism as a way to get engagement from their partner. The anxious person is terrified that if you don't see how much you're hurting me, that you won't change and so I need to get you to change. If I ask nicely in my mind, this is all very much story, right? If I asks nicely, you don't do what I want. And so I have to ask not so nicely or tell not so nicely, try and control in order that we can work our way back to harmony again.
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