Gottman: If you're willing to own where you need to do some work, you can move toward more compatibility. You never really know someone until you have your first fight; that's why pacing once again is so important. He says if both parties are flexible and willing to support the other one, what do you mean by this? I think this is an interesting one. It's something you're going to discover the first time you have a disagreement or an argument or a conflict.
Understanding the difference between chemistry and compatibility can help us understand that just because it feels good, doesn’t mean it will be good. We confuse chemistry with compatibility, intensity with intimacy and attention with intention, without every talking about the foundations of what compatibility actually means.
Louise & therapist Dr. Tari Mack cover some game changing advice:
- The concepts of chemistry vs. compatibility
- Why love isn’t enough
- 6 signs of toxic chemistry (trauma bonding, breadcrumbing, toxic chemistry, rollercoaster dating, inconsistency, the anxious-avoidant cycle)
- Why you can’t sustain a relationship on just chemistry
- What compatibility is
- The 12 signs of chemistry that you need to establish to really see if you are a good match.
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