As therapists, we are taught that at certain times, there may be certain cases that you may not want to work with. And so I think when we think about holding space for friends or other people in our lives, we do have to recognize like, okay, do I have the capacity to really be non judgmental in the situation? Can I separate my stuff from their stuff? You know, like, can I really just create a space where they can kind of way through their own things without me adding my own judgment or my own ideas about what I think they should do in this situation?" She says being honest about where you find yourself really can go a long way.