
How Mattering to Yourself & Others Can Change Your Life with Oprah, Jennifer Wallace & Ina Garten
The Oprah Podcast
Ina Garten on showing people they matter
Ina Garten describes practical acts—undivided attention, invitations, dinner—that signal care and build trust and community.
Oprah is joined by award-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author Jennifer Wallace to talk about her transformative new book "Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose." Drawing on six years of research, Wallace shares how mattering - the feeling that we are valued and have an opportunity to add value - is a fundamental human need essential to our well-being. She believes there's been "an erosion of mattering" and provides actionable steps to deepen your connections, reconnect to your sense of purpose and navigate challenges with greater resilience. Joining the conversation is Jennifer's close friend and lifestyle icon Ina Garten. Oprah and Jennifer also speak with a military wife who learned how to bring mattering back to her marriage and an extraordinary young man who went from being a sanitation worker to a Harvard Law School graduate.
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'Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose' by Jennifer Wallace: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/756179/mattering-by-jennifer-breheny-wallace/
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Welcome Jennifer Wallace, author of “Mattering”
00:05:50 - Ina Garten joins
00:07:05 - The importance of mattering to yourself
00:08:40 - How Ina shows people they matter
00:09:30 - The importance of showing up
00:10:50 - One easy way to show people they matter
00:12:20 - The thread that ties us together
00:13:40 - Extrinsic and intrinsic values
00:15:50 - Professor Gordon Flett on why mattering is life or death
00:18:12 - How mattering affects our longevity
00:21:00 - How to get through hard moments
00:23:00 - How Army partners struggle with mattering
00:28:00 - Our resilience is tied to our relationships
00:34:00 - Mattering to ourselves raises the bar for all relationships 00:35:20 - A former sanitation worker's observations on mattering
00:42:00 - Supporting support staff
00:44:50 - Mattering at work
00:46:00 - The 4 important feelings to mattering
00:48:10 - What to do if you feel like you don’t matter
Additional Resources:
‘Be Ready When the Luck Happens: A Memoir’ by Ina Garten:
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/770511/be-ready-when-the-luck-happens-by-ina-garten/
Gordon L. Flett, Ph.D.
https://www.yorku.ca/lamarsh/gord-flett/
‘The Wives: A Memoir’ by Simone Gorrindo:
The Reciprocity Effect:
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