"If you are rejected romantically, every fiber of your being is basically being like rejected," she says. "You kind of need that in order to feel like you have the worth" In classic novels, romantic relationships were mediated by social connections and communities,. And communities and expectations and things like that. But today, we're trying to figure out our worth based on other people's rejections.
In this episode, we discuss a few highlights from “Why Love Hurts” - a book which argues that our relationships go wrong due to 'institutional forces', rather than our dysfunctional childhoods or our insufficiently self-aware psyches (which is the more commonly accepted modern belief).