How Do We Tweak the Environment Around Us?

I'm really fascinated by this question of how do we tweak the environment around us as much as we do have control over? Because I think there's a very fatalistic sense that takes over. And then we just kind of like give up, right? You know, so I have a five month old daughter. She would cry, she would determine whether or not my wife would respond to her behavior for the future. So ultimately, maybe that's two in the weed, but that gives it like some hopefully color to what I'm describing when I think about individualized performance and shaping your environment.