How to Deal With Shyness at Work

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Laura, one of our listeners who wrote into us talking about her experience in her struggle with shyness. Alice Boyes used to be a clinical psychologist and researcher now she's an author writing about psychology. Later in the show, Amy, B and I will tell you how we've grappled with it ourselves. But first, we'll hear from an expert I interviewed who broadened my thinking around what shyness is.

We all have preconceived notions about which personality types are fit to be in positions of power. And as a result, a lot of incompetent men become leaders because of the confidence they give off. But being self-assured doesn’t make you good at the job. Imagine if there were more reserved but truly competent women in leadership? So what if your boss blushes easily, as long as she’s emotionally intelligent and inspires her team?

One woman’s struggle with shyness prompts us to explore the seeming conflict between being shy and being a leader. With the help of an expert, we examine the professional advantages of certain personality traits related to shyness — like sensitivity and thoughtfulness — and discuss strategies to overcome the aspects of them that may hold you back at work.

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Alice Boyes is a former clinical psychologist turned writer and is author of The Healthy Mind Toolkit and The Anxiety Toolkit.

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