How to Stop Wasting Time with the Wrong People - Emotional maturity with Jonathan Aslay
Growth Mindset Psychology: The Science of Self-Improvement
Intro
Sam introduces the episode, Jonathan's losses, and the topic of emotional maturity and self-love.
Most people treat dating like a lottery; swipe, hope, repeat.
Jonathan Aslay lost $2 million, his marriage, and his son. What saved him wasn't positive thinking. It was asking one brutal question: "What happened in your marriage?"
Not to judge. To observe. Because how someone talks about their ex reveals everything about their emotional maturity. Self-love isn't bubble baths and affirmations. It's having the spine to walk away from someone hot but emotionally stunted. It's recognizing that your body screams "yes" while your values whisper "run."
Chemistry is a drug. Compatibility is architecture. Most relationships fail because people confuse the two.
You'll learn:
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The exact question that exposes emotional immaturity in 30 seconds
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Why chemistry without shared values guarantees failure
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How to interview dates without sounding like HR (and why you should)
Stop wasting months on people who were wrong from day three.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 - Introduction: When Success Becomes Suffering
01:32 - Jonathan's Story: Losing Everything
03:45 - The Market Crash and Day Trading Disaster
05:20 - From Greed to Self-Love
06:15 - What Self-Love Actually Means
08:40 - Self-Love vs. Narcissism
10:25 - Could You Have Learned This Earlier?
13:10 - Generational Wisdom and Technology
14:50 - Dating in the Tinder Era
17:20 - Inner Peace as a Barometer
19:05 - Discipline and Daily Practice
20:15 - The Dating Problem: Chemistry vs. Compatibility
22:30 - The Marriage Question That Reveals Everything
24:45 - Emotional Maturity and Taking Ownership
26:20 - Why You Should Interview Your Dates
27:40 - The Partnership Charter
28:35 - How They React to Questions
29:25 - The Job Question: Eeyore vs. Tigger
30:10 - Earliest Memories
31:28 - Kindest Thing Someone Has Done
32:23 - Advice for Life
33:15 - Outro: Be Kind to Yourself
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