I Don't Want to Have Lunch With You

Deborah: Even asking the person, tell me what your conversational style is does not elicit people's real Conversational styles. I was a guest at that dinner, and i took the host at her word when she said she didn't want help. She may well have told you, now you don't have to help, because she would have felt ige to say that. We both know these are things that can be tricky, so let's agree that we are going to be as a prunt about it as we can.