Why people attack perceived success

In this episode, Chris Do and Jule Kim unpack why feedback is both essential and emotionally difficult for creatives. Drawing from decades of teaching, coaching, and public critique, they explore the difference between honest feedback and destructive criticism, and why many people interpret any suggestion for improvement as a personal attack.

The discussion challenges the idea that feedback should soothe feelings, arguing instead that clarity, accountability, and truth are what actually lead to growth. Throughout the episode, Chris and Jule reflect on how upbringing, education systems, and generational shifts have shaped our collective tolerance for critique.

Timestamps

(00:00) — Intro

(10:05) — Setting expectations early

(20:01) — Critique versus roasting

(30:12) — Accountability in education

(40:18) — Coddling culture explained

(49:55) — Honesty over comfort

(01:00:03) — Fear of critical feedback

(01:10:22) — Teaching truth responsibly

(01:19:40) — Crossing the critique line

Check out today's guest, Jule Kim:

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Executive Coach Jule Kim : ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://adviceactually.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Jule Kim's Podcasts:

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Apple: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-is-how-you-think-a-personal-growth-and/id1821606552⁠⁠

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Check out Chris Do:

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