Intro

Whether you’ve been with us from the start or just found the podcast, this episode is basically a cheat sheet for a better sex life.

We pulled together the best of the best from hundreds of episodes — the tips, tools, and “aha” moments that have completely transformed our community’s sex lives. From the rule that saved our date nights to the mindset shifts that made intimacy feel easy again, we’re revisiting the advice that started it all.

💛 In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why the “F*** First Rule” might be the simplest way to rekindle connection.

• What the Bristle Reaction really means and how to retrain your body to want touch again.

• How to figure out your desire type (and why that might finally solve your mismatched libido issue).

• The sneaky reason your sex life might feel “meh” and how to make it worth craving again.

• Honorable mentions like the First Pancake Rule, scheduling sex, and other hot takes we might just turn into full episodes soon. 👀

If you’ve ever thought, “Where do I even start?” when it comes to improving your sex life… start here.

Go deeper 💞 Want to know exactly what’s keeping you and your partner stuck (and how to fix it)? Take our free Intimacy Quiz to discover your intimacy type and get a personalized roadmap to better connection, communication, and pleasure inside our membership, Deeper.

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

04:05 F*ck First Rule

18:42 Bristle Reaction

26:03 We make out every night

32:42 Two Types of Desire

40:15 Emotional Physical Conundrum

50:00 Mushy Broccoli Problem

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