Divorce Means Failure

i think a lot of people have that narrative wrapped in their head, which s divorce means failure. And they feel shame about it. Especially if you have kids, you have to deal with them. That's always a bigger and then i want to take the opposite approh sh. How do you what is that first step and what is the second step? And how does that look like for building that relationship back to me be where it was when you got married?"