Using the Simplest Tool to Fix a Problem

A problem that exists in a system can exist at any of the multiple levels of that system, and it isn't obvious where to start. If you're arguing with someone, you want to argue about the smallest possible thing that might fix the problem. What's going on at a micro level, and what's the minimum that i would require to be satisfied with the outcome? That's basically how we keep our emotions out of everyone else's way. You get the game, you play the hell out of everybody who's well-socialized,. And so you're helping me simplify my perceptions of you by agreeing to playing the same game....