Failure to Process Loss Leaves Grief Unmetabolized

In adult life, it can feel unbearable to allow oneself to grieve. So what happens is they might bounce back and forth into defenses of blaming the person who's left or just feeling the sense of core shame of I'm unlovable. And all of these defensive behaviors leave grief unmetabolized. The loss is unresolved. And the right hemisphere hasn't been fully informed that the disconnection has happened.