Authenticity Over Performance in Conversations

Topaz discusses why people stop performing once they step into held spaces and how genuine responses emerge in deep conversations.

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You know that Stupid questions = Stupid answers. It's the same for boring questions. If you want to live a meaningful life with space for personal growth and connection with those around you.

The answer is fantastic questions.

Questions that help you understand yourself better and your partner.

Questions that lead to conversations where you really see each other deep down at a human to human level.

Topaz Azides, is an Emmy-winning director who spent a decade analyzing 1,200 couples to understand why some thrive while others stall. He discovered that humans are "answering machines"—we can't help but respond to the prompt in front of us. He crafted 12 questions that act like rocket fuel for connection, moving you from small talk to the conversations you're secretly desperate to have. This isn’t about cheesy one-liners; it's a practical framework for reframing your mindset:

Learn why our brains are hardwired to answer any question, and how to use this quirk for psychology-driven growth.
Discover how to use arguments to build psychological resilience and make your relationship stronger, not break it.
Embrace the idea that every moment is unique and discover how to treat it that way, fostering cognitive flexibility in your interactions.

Topaz Azides

Get the book: https://www.topazadizes.com/book

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