How to Unburden a Regret

People unceasingly fascinate me, is that when you make space safe for people and they disclose things, they get in a better mood. So forgive yourself, treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt, disclose to make sense of it. But the final step is also really, really, really important. You have to extract a lesson from it. We tend to be not very good at doing that for selves. It helps us learn how to deal with negative emotions. And i guess what's frustrating is that we've been sold all the time this bill of goods saying that we should be teaching people these simple process for dealing withnegative emotions.