In this episode, Jay talks about a side of gratitude we rarely acknowledge, the kind that isn’t shiny or uplifting, but the kind that helps when life feels heavy, complicated, or far from what you expected. He explains how, for years, he treated gratitude like something meant to fix pain or override his feelings, and how that mindset only added pressure instead of bringing any real peace.
Jay talks about what real gratitude actually feels like, not the kind that tries to cancel out your struggles, but the kind that can sit beside them. He shares how acknowledging both things at once, what hurts and what’s still good, builds real resilience. Jay breaks down why phrases like “at least…” shut your feelings down, while using “even though…” or “and…” keeps you present with your emotions instead of pushing them away.
Jay also shares the small, practical habits that help him reconnect with gratitude when it feels far away: paying attention to what stayed instead of what disappeared, taking 10-second pauses to notice something good in the moment, borrowing someone else’s joy when you can’t access your own, and writing a thank-you note to the version of you who got through the harder seasons.
Jay reminds us that gratitude isn’t supposed to hide what’s hard, it’s meant to help you steady yourself. It’s the quiet admission: “Life is messy, and there’s still something I can hold onto.”
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to Stop Using Gratitude to Mask Your Feelings
How to Hold Pain and Gratitude Together
How to Notice What Stayed, Not What Left
How to Use 10-Second Pauses to Reset
How to Borrow Gratitude When You Can’t Feel It
How to Thank the You Who Survived
You’re not doing gratitude wrong, you’re just learning to do it honestly. Keep showing up with awareness, gentleness, and patience. You’re not rebuilding from zero, you’re rebuilding from experience.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:00 How to Practice Gratitude
02:39 Gratitude Without Hiding Your Emotions
06:46 Don’t Use Gratitude As Your Escape
09:17 Focus On What You Still Have
11:11 Finding Gratitude in the Gaps
14:43 Gratitude Reset: Take A 10 Second Pause
18:26 The Art Of Borrowing Gratitude
21:15 Stay Thankful To Your Past Self
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