We think about our future self as being a kind of Spock-like character, who's not going to have high highs or low lows. We don't understand the extent to which our future selves are really affected by the situation. And so we can very easily commit ourselves to things that we might even enjoy without taking into account the various ways that situations will conspire against us.
Who do we volunteer to run a gruelling half-marathon? Who do we expect to give up sugar, or quit drinking? Who do we demand clears out the garage in the middle of summer?
Ourselves. Mean, right?
Turns out we make demands on our future selves that our present selves would think are unrealistic or unreasonable. And the reason we do it is because our minds are really bad at anticipating the wants and needs we'll have in a week, a month, or a year from now. And that harms our happiness.
Talking before a live audience in Somerville, MA, Dr Laurie Santos and Harvard professor Jason Mitchell explore how we can be kinder to both our present and future selves.
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