Freudian culture has made the forceful claim that sexual attraction is best explained by our past experiences early in life. Freud went one step further and argued that early experiences of loss, however painful, will be reenacted throughout adult life as a way to gain mastery over them. More Freudian culture suggested that by and large romantic misery was inevitable and self-inflicted. The extraordinary, extraordinarily successful industry of self-help was made against deep-seated belief that miseries are tailormade to our psychic history.