Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a pattern. And patterns, when understood, can be changed.
We are the descendants of beings who bonded, lusted, and survived—not by chance, but by biology.
In this episode, we explore the elegant architecture of love, divided into three distinct experiences: lust, attraction, and attachment.
Each has its own hormonal symphony: testosterone’s drive, dopamine’s thrill, oxytocin’s warmth. But these chemicals, while essential, are not our destiny. We must choose how we respond to them.
The opportunity lies in seeing love not just as passion, but as a practice—a practice of self-awareness, empathy, and intentionality.
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Reframe love from chaos to conscious experience.
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Observe your emotions without becoming them.
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Build connection that outlasts dopamine spikes.
Your biology is the system, but your awareness can evolve it.
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Episode: The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment - Psychology vs Biology
Chapters:
00:00 The 3 main components of love
01:27 Biology of Love
02:33 Lust and the role of sex hormones
05:42 Attraction and reward pathways
08:25 Attachment and bonding hormones
10:37 Love's addictive power and irrationality
11:44 Infatuation, dependence and controlling behaviours
12:51 Reckless and destructive tendencies
14:11 How we lose rational thinking
16:46 Choosing the right partner
18:02 Cultivating healthy relationship habits
18:23 Send Off
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