Confidence in Jiu-Jitsu

I think jiu-jitsu is one of those interesting ones where it's not quantitative in that you can win on points if you don't submit, but there is some subjectivity because refs have to make decisions about who gets advantages. I literally had no idea who would win until they raised her hand. And neither of us knew why. They must have just, you know, she was playing top, I was playing bottom. It's hard to tell from the outside. So there is a level where confidence can really get you far. You have to be able to believe in yourself and still have the ability to take ownership of failures. Otherwise, you don't get very far just