This week, we’re diving into something that seems simple but holds a lot of power in your relationship: touch.
Whether it's a lingering hug, a soft shoulder squeeze, or just holding hands while watching Netflix — physical touch is one of the most important (and underrated) ways to build connection, intimacy, and trust.
But if you’ve found yourselves touching less — or if touch feels off somehow — you’re not alone. We asked our audience, and:
In this episode, we’re breaking down why touch is so essential — and why so many couples stop doing it. (Spoiler: it's not just about sex.) Plus, we’re giving you practical tools and one super simple free exercise (takes 5 minutes) to start reconnecting through touch today.
💛 Here’s what we’re covering:
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The emotional and physical benefits of touch (for both of you)
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Why “touch starvation” is real — even in long-term relationships
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The surprising ways you may be unintentionally avoiding touch
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The difference between sexual and non-sexual touch — and why both matter
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What to do if your partner says “touch just isn’t my love language”
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Quick, everyday ways to bring more affection into your relationship (no grand gestures required)
✨ Ready to explore all the ways to touch?
We created The Secret Touch Blueprint to help you and your partner reflect on what kinds of touch feel best to you — and how to talk about it together.
Grab it here → https://free.vmtherapy.com/touch-blueprint
And if doing that exercise leaves you thinking, “Wait… I want more of this,” you’ll love what’s coming next.
This July, we’re launching a 4-week Sensual Touch Challenge exclusively inside our Deeper membership.
It’ll walk you through 8 specific types of touch — from relaxing to arousing — with fun prompts, step-by-step videos, and guided exercises to try with your partner.
It’s designed to bring back the playfulness, the exploration, and the kind of touch that makes you feel again.
💥 Pillow Talks listeners get 25% off their first month of Deeper with code PILLOW → https://vmtherapy.com/touch
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