The Importance of Balance

For the Buddha, this was knowing that we can't fundamentally alleviate the suffering of others. As in the phrases of the fourth Brahmaphara is a pekka. And the phrase is, I care for you, but I am not responsible for your happiness or unhappiness. It's a way of reminding ourselves that there's only a certain amount of engagement and meshments, involvement that we can have with others before it's no longer skillful.